Discerning the Call

“Prayer is the oxygen of the soul.”
~St. Padre Pio

Discerning the Call to the Priesthood

Discernment is the process of discovering God's will for you. Keep in mind as you begin this process of discernment that both you and God desire the same thing: your happiness. Jesus wants what is best for you. He wants to lead you to a decision about your life that will bring you the deep joy that comes with following Him.

Steps for Hearing God's Call

Encounter Christ

It is only when a young man has had a real and personal encounter with Jesus Christ that he can truly begin to understand the Lord’s will for his life. Vocational discernment is not a “navel-gazing, self-centered, psychological exercise.” It is not merely self-reflection or introspection. Discernment is a personal encounter with the person of Christ and a gradual realization of His will. It may be the peace in the presence of the Eucharist, joy during the celebration of the Mass, the mercy of confession, or the generosity of a pastor where you find this personal encounter with Christ. You must then have an openness of heart and a willingness to say ‘yes’ to where He is leading you.

Develop a Daily Prayer Life

Finding time for silence and prayer is essential to growing in intimacy with the Lord. It is also essential for discernment! We easily recognize the voice of our loved ones, because of how often we spend time with them. The same is true for our relationship with Jesus – the more we spend time with Him in prayer, the easier it is for us to hear Him speaking to our hearts. Stay faithful to a daily prayer life centered on the Eucharist.

Knowing God’s Will

God’s will for you is not something far away and distant. It is not a secret puzzle to be solved. God’s will is found in your own deepest desires when you are closest to Christ! God speaks to us through our own desires. But we must remain in Christ and continually ask Him to purify our desires. Talking to a priest or spiritual director can be helpful for sorting through the many desires of your heart.

Desiring God’s Will

Sincerely seeking God’s will includes enkindling your desire to follow His will. You must be willing to surrender your will to His. This is a requirement for good discernment, and it takes patience and trust in God. You must trust that the Father wants what’s best for you. Peace is found in the Heart of Jesus, and fears are from the evil one.

Practical Tips for Discernment

Pray

• Prayer - At least 20 minutes of silent mental prayer every day.

• Mass - Attend Mass more than just on Sundays, daily if possible.
  Eucharistic Adoration – Spend at least an hour every week in the presence of the Blessed Sacrament.

• Mary - Foster a relationship with the Blessed Mother through the Rosary or some other Marian devotion.

• Retreat - Go on a discernment retreat. Talk to the Promoter of Vocations to find a retreat near you.
  

Cultivate

• Volunteer regularly at a nearby food pantry, local homeless shelter, women’s care center, or other service organization.

• Serve regularly for your parish or campus ministry. Learn to love the Mass and Sacraments.

• Become a leader in your community. Organize events, both social and spiritual.
  

Learn

• Talk to a priest you trust, tell him you’re discerning and looking for advice. Ask him his vocation story.

• Find a good spiritual director and trust him!

• Read Good Books – Check out the resources page for discernment specific literature. 
  
  

How will I know?

So, you have spent all this time in prayer and have built a life centered on Jesus through His Church, but you still are not sure if Jesus is calling you to be His priest. Of course you are still unsure! Maybe you are afraid that He is truly calling you to give up everything and follow Him. Perhaps you feel unworthy or think you are better off as a husband and father, as this is often the case with men who become priests. You need to learn more.